My Impersonal Life
Recording 06 of 20
Detaching from the emotional Ups and Downs of the Person
Barry Long explores the nature of the impersonal life, revealing how attachment to the ‘person’—our habitual self-consideration and emotional demands—keeps us locked in unhappiness. He teaches detachment from excitement, guilt, self-doubt, and sexual fantasy as the way to discover real love, presence, and equilibrium.
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LENGTH: 1 HOURS AND 59 MINUTES
LANGUAGE: ENGLISH
YEAR RECORDED: 1994
PLACE RECORDED: CABARITA, AUSTRALIA
MAIN TOPICS
Lovemaking, Excitement and depression, Pure sexuality and sex, Sensuousness, Aloneness, Lovemaking brings up emotion, Personal and impersonal
SUMMARY
Through dialogue and practical examples, Barry Long delineates how self-enjoyment and emotional ups and downs perpetuate suffering. By teaching detachment and the art of 'not enjoying oneself,' he brings attention to the stillness and simplicity of love and being.
The talk uncovers how individuals keep their sense of self alive through emotional habits such as guilt, resentment, and comparison. Barry demonstrates that true giving, love, and conscious partnership can only emerge as we withdraw attachment from the emotional self.
Using the theme of sexual and emotional energy, Barry insists upon the importance of facing, rather than indulging, our attachments—especially within partnership—as the key to healing, self-realisation, and love. He offers individual advice and group guidance to illustrate this path.
Barry exposes the delusion of seeking fulfilment in the future or through comparison and memory, urging listeners to live in the 'now' and embrace the aloneness of being. He links this realisation to the cessation of suffering and the emergence of genuine love.
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