To love in a natural way
The saints told us to love God, which no one on earth can possibly do by an act of will. How can you love if you don't love? what kind of exhortation is that? What would you say if I told you: Feel hungry! when you're not hungry? Or maybe you have been told to love everyone. How can you love everyone? Do you love everyone, can you really do it? Are they all so lovable? Do you really love your enemies? Did you tell your children today, not last Christmas, to love people who hit or punch them? When someone comes across you today, see if you love them. Let's be honest, honest with ourselves. We would love everyone, but could we just start with our partner? Perhaps you will say that this is the task, to love everyone despite one's natural unloving tendencies.
There is no task, there is no obligation or penalty in love. To try to love as a task is to follow the path away from this world of self-blame and shame. That is not the way to start loving. You begin to love by making love, which is what you, me and everyone else on earth desires anyway. But you need to learn to make love correctly, without self-indulgence, without seeking emotional satisfaction and self-gratification.
After you have learned to make true physical love and have begun to restore your golden halo, you will then discover how to love your neighbor, your enemies, God, and yourself. Few women have integrated the upper half of the body, above the waist, with the half below the waist.
The upper half, the torso, where the breasts and the solar plexus are located, vibrates with a very fine energy of love. This is the finest love in the body. He provides milk to the baby and retains what is love in the bosom without the tinge of sexuality. This love is often felt as the longing for the unattainable, the longing for purity and idealistic beauty. It is the impulse behind the whole idea of Platonic love.
This upper part of the body is the upper pole of love. The lower pole of love below the waist is focused on the genitals, but the energy of this love is continually present, though normally imperceptible, in the lower back, base of the spine, thighs, and legs. If you are very still, you will eventually isolate the different sensation of this energy. When perceived as such, without emotional or sexual associations, this lower love energy is felt to be just as pure as higher love, only as a more tangible and grainier sensation. But that does not detract from its purity and essential beauty, because this energy, rising through the legs from the same earth, is pure vitality or vital force before emotion such as sexuality or feeling has entered it.
The function of man, as the masculine principle, is to unify these two polarities of love in the woman, so that her entire system flows freely and satisfactorily with divine love. By this union of the upper and lower division of the human body, that is, the ideal and the earthly, the unattainable and the attainable, the only current of divine love, or radiant golden energy, is produced. When this is fully achieved, the woman is reunited with her true self - physically, psychologically and spiritually.
Her discontent fades and she is no longer dependent on her work, art, motherhood, or any other outside activity, to give herself a sense of fulfillment or purpose. She may be engaged in those occupations, but she will no longer be attached to them as a necessity. The entire sexual motivation of the woman is to make the divine connection through the man. Her desire to have children is secondary and a substitute for the other. Because the divine connection is so rarely made, no woman today is herself.
She remains mostly in the romantic upper half of her body, yearning for the unattainable and periodically or promiscuously engaging the lower half in sex in a futile effort to make the connection. But she evades it. So she remains virtually divided into herself, two persons, until finally cut off from sex by disillusionment or old age, she lives a half-life form of idealized love within the upper half of her. Frigidity in women is due to a lack of union of love in her own body. It also helps to cause impotence in the man, or the inability for him to get an erection.
As we proceed, it will become clearer how to overcome these problems. For today's man and woman to make love beautifully and divinely requires each to induce a fundamental change in the penis or vagina, or, more specifically, that part of the brain that controls them, have to be consciously released from the emotion or unconsciousness of the past, that is, from all habits, misconceptions and ignorance gained, about making love through past experience. The experience is the past. We can learn from experience anything except how to make love.
Love does not come from practice or experience. Love is. The body does not have to learn how to make love; he makes love naturally. What we learn from the experience of making love is not how to make love but how to take care of ourselves, how to project and protect ourselves at the same time in a cunning and safe way. This of course is commitment; you can't protect yourself, contain yourself in any way, and make love. But that's how everyone makes love today.
Experience, the past, has taught us to be cautious, not to give our all or we could lose something, we could get hurt, so we all play it safe. Fear is abundant. And in any case, we would no longer know how to give everything when making love; we have forgotten that too. How often do people in love feel the shuddering urge to give it their all, to want to tear themselves open, and yet they can't? You must have had that feeling once.
Would you be able to give everything to your lover now, in this moment, if you had the chance? The answer is no. You have the opportunity to do it every time you make love, and you haven't fixed it yet, have you? Making love today is a commitment, the acceptance of the best that can be expected or done in the circumstances. And it produces, at best, for lovers the best feeling that can be expected from commitment - satisfaction, a poor substitute indeed for the continuous and glorious feeling of physical love made and given without self-consideration, without commitment, without holding back, without protecting oneself. while expressing yourself.
Extract from Making Love
Love – as it truly is