Love – as it truly is
Orgasm is an end, an emotional end. The act of love has no end. True lovers continue to make love until finally, perhaps hours later, the man's body naturally and consciously ejaculates, or the couple pulls apart and makes love hours later, or the next day, or the day after, or the day after without the man necessarily having to arrive. Orgasm is part of the act of love. But the former is truly beneath the beauty and purpose of the latter, it will duly happen to both of them, if both are sufficiently present and engaged in just making love.
Most women's lovemaking experiences are fraught with frustration. Most of the experience of men consists of arousal with the prospect of ejaculation. Between her underlying fears, her reservations and hopes based on past experience, and his dancing excitement, also based on the past, there is very little chance of making true love between the two of them in the now or present. It will produce more emotion than love.
Trying to repeat a good sexual experience, how to get there, we become expectant or emotional. And trying to avoid repeating a bad experience, we become emotionally guarded. In neither case can we make love. And the amazing truth that we don't understand is that the emotion produced in what is supposed to be lovemaking will surface in us in five minutes, hours or days, and cause a bout of depression, particularly in women. In a man, the movement will surface as irritability, anger, or aggressive behaviour, and he will probably release it later by masturbating.
The fundamental change in the penis and vagina that is necessary today to make love beautifully and divinely has to be effected by the man or woman learning to become conscious, that is, to remain psychologically and then spiritually present during the act of love. love and preliminaries Today, due to the massive accumulation of the past and unconsciousness in their bodies, men and women make love mostly in a dreamy, unconscious state. What happens is that the emotions that arise from their sexual love arouse the emotions.
These emotions, the person's accumulated past experience of sexual desire or longing, draw their attention or consciousness back into the past as images or forms of fantasy. So, being immersed in that past, they see themselves as beings aware of the love that their bodies are making in the present. Psychologically they are absent from the event, they are no longer present, not really with their partner. They have drifted into their own world. You must have observed this in your lovemaking - possibly in yourself, but particularly in your partner. In these moments when you have been consciously present making love, and everyone is from time to time, you will have noticed that your lover has passed out in a form of personal euphoria. They are not with you making love, here, now. They are clearly absent from the present where you are. They have become self contained.
It is not unlikely that when talking to someone you suddenly realize that they are not listening to you, they are no longer with you. They are thousands of miles away thinking of something else.
In short, your lover has left you - just like that out in the cold. So instead of just being out there making love, you push yourself as fast as you can to return to your own personal dream state, to lose yourself in your emotional past as well. Do this, you will notice, through the imagination, using the sexual or erotic imagination, which again excites the emotions. and entirely you navigate in the land of dreams.
Instead of two being together in conscious physical union, which is the purpose of lovemaking, you are now secluded in dream worlds. The act of love is self-directed, self-indulgent, and self-gratifying. You have both borrowed each other's vagina or penis to make love with your own emotions, your own past.
In such an isolated yet normal encounter, there is no conscious, timeless union of the masculine and feminine principle, no realization of consciousness or love itself, no union of the only two poles of divinity on earth in the presence unique, ineffable, divine, realized as your own reality, the sublime and disinterested spirit of love and life.
Because emotion or ego is done more than love, and because emotion or ego isolates, such an act of love gradually pushes the partner away. They get sexually tired of each other and the magic fades. The act of love becomes habitual, an obligation or an emotional release, an explosion of anger is not unlikely, and disagreement, discontent and restlessness increase. The interaction of the penis and the vagina generates die. This love is the most intensely joyful sensation in the human body.
However, the intensity of pleasure in love is severely reduced by the existence of emotion or past in the genitals. The more emotion or past there is there, the more numb and distant is the person's feeling or love and their perception of the meaning of love. Since today every penis and vagina is more or less infested with emotion or the past, no one suspects that the delicious bodily sensation normally felt in the act of love is already twisted and deadened.
Hence, no one would ever think of looking for a naturally achievable essence, which is available to every man or woman who can free the penis and vagina from the past and thus be aware of the divine presence or conscious, in the act loving. I am endeavoring to lead you, and I hope your partner, to this extraordinary original human state of being and understanding.
That is why I am going to say a few more words about the feeling and the perception of it. A penis and a vagina that are freed from emotion or the past begin to make ecstatic love together. The sensation and perception is so heightened, that at first one may feel the possibility of losing consciousness, because the pleasure seems almost unbearable. As the process continues, one becomes aware of being fully present as the awareness of divine love being made. There are no limits to the breadth of joy and of being and to the immediacy of the spirit that is known to be the union of both and of oneself in the divine presence. And because it is only love and not emotion or imagination that is being done, and since love unlike emotion or orgasm has no end, the same spiritual and physical delight is present in the successive acts of love together.
In other words, the loving act does not vary; it has only ups and no downs, no moods, no confusions, no personal or associated emotional disasters. He gets better and better, more and more pure, more divine and more real, more aware, more present, more amazing and wondrous in his sublime perception of love, divinity, and eternal purpose. But, as you will appreciate, this does not happen easily. Much emotional and intellectual death has to take place. It takes working long and hard with yourself and together. But the point is that it can be done.
As we continue down to the practicalities of making love, I want to remind you that the past is emotion, that when your words or feelings come from the past, from a moment before now, you are being emotional. You are not sincere, you are not yourself, so you cannot be or make love. Emotion, in fact, is the substance of every past sexual desire you've had since your teens has lodged and accumulated in your genitals or that part of the brain that controls them. They accumulate there like an unsuspected tension. In women this tension manifests itself as a subtle tension or tightness in the vagina, in men as a hardening of the penis, expressing itself as involuntary erections during the day or night. In both sexes this genital tension causes practically all the restlessness, heaviness and discontent. An emotional vagina, which is all vagina until you make it emotionless or without past loving it beautifully and desirelessly, is imperceptibly rigid, muscular, expectant, self-guarding, tightly receptive and taut. A vagina that has been used by numerous emotional penises begins to react like penises themselves, becoming tough, greedy, and predatory.
She concentrates on the orgasm, not on love. As emotion is released from a penis that develops in love and awareness, the vagina becomes accommodating, tender, giving, simple, easy, undemanding, and calm. The female orgasm of love is essentially passive and innocent. Learn his bad habits from the masculine. The penis is the teacher of the vagina for good or bad. During penetration, a vagina that has become hungry for the wrong penis generates very little awareness of love for the woman herself, because the awareness or pleasure engendered is based on temporary, emotional satisfaction. This causes her a deep inner unhappiness. Whether or not she is promiscuous, which is just a desperate search for love, is irrelevant. The vagina responds according to the energy of what it has previously entered or informed. Contact with a penis that has been purified of emotion, or that has begun to be purified, begins to purify the process in the vagina. Even today a virgin vagina is relatively tense with a personal past or emotion.
This comes from emotional or sexual imagery and related experience, which may include masturbation and male groping. Here, too, as soon as the virgin is pleasantly penetrated by the penis - that is, when the pain of entering that temporarily keeps her in the present ceases - will use this pleasurable sensation to dream of those old imaginations and emotions and fail to remain with the wonder of the love made by her vagina in the present. The basic tension of the virgin vagina, however, is due to the ignorance of loving.
Once, when time and the human race were young, every virgin woman understood love because she was love. There was no ignorance of love in her consciousness as there was no emotion in her vagina. Her lack of physical experience caused no stress because she understood love before she did it, something we can't conceive of today. She was free from the emotional ignorance of the unrealistic imaginings of love that all virgins indulge in today. Virgins today automatically speculate or fantasize about love because they no longer understand love or themselves. Nor have there been any teachers, authentic gurus, on earth who speak to you and instruct you before you receive wrong impressions through physical experience.
Without the understanding of love, virgins begin to imagine what physical love is and that generates vaginal excitement, tension, or hysteria. Today, with so much racial past or time in the human body, the girl's vagina is already potentially emotional at birth. After puberty, when the virgin vagina is penetrated, informed, or energized by an emotional penis, the girl's emotional potential is actualized, and the usual and predictable problems between her and the man then follow.
In love without emotion there are no love problems between man and woman. You must understand the penis and the vagina spiritually. Both are spiritual organs and together they are the means of all love on Earth. If love is God - if love is our divinity or the excellence of life - then the penis and the vagina are the means of that excellence. Every man and woman, every perception of love and beauty on earth, arises from the union of the penis and the vagina.
Homosexual love, like all love, is an attempt to return to the divine state where the masculine and feminine principles are united, the state of union that transcends persons and personal love. The penis is the finest perceptual organ and instrument in the male body. He is self-aware and self-aware. It is the positive, active organ of love on earth. He knows exactly how to make love and what to do inside the vagina.
The man has to learn to be his penis during the act; to make love properly, he has to surrender to his greatest intelligence. In the present the man forces his lower emotional intelligence, obsessed with sex, on him, with the result that the penis cannot do the job it is supposed to do. However, occasionally in a normal coupling the penile consciousness can take over and the act of love is surprisingly good and true, but that is the exception.
Most of the time the act of love varies from satisfactory to mediocre through a non-event or disaster, because the penis is used as a gratification instrument for the man's sexual obsession or emotional aggression and self-forgetfulness. same of the woman. The vaginal cavity represents the emptiness in the woman, her racial, eternal yearning to be filled with love. The penis remains the only love that can fill it, and until the penis is there the man and the woman cannot be content. The penis inside the vagina symbolizes the filling of the enormous gap that has developed over time between the two sexes - the gap that created the world and through which the world continues to come to birth.
The vaginal canal into existence is then sealed; the cavity and its lost mass have found each other and are complete. Existence as the search for union by the wandering masculine and feminine is no longer necessary. But life as birth and death continues; even in union the penis and the vagina are doomed to separate, above the place of union is the uterus - the uterus and the will to create.
The womb or will is the source of existence and will not allow man and woman to rest long together on the face of the earth. The womb or will can never be filled in peace as can the vagina, for the womb demands birth and existence, not rest. Therefore, even as a man and a woman, the penis and the vagina find rest and completion in each other, the uterus sucks into it the seeds of life - and another missing part, whatever, another penis or vagina, is born.
The penis is only happy when it is erect inside the woman's vaginal void. When erect in the vacuum of space outside the vagina, the penis is impatient, excitable, and emotional. In this unnatural state, he is naturally regarded by society as obsessed and often by both sexes as threatening. This is because the erect penis outside of its natural vaginal home is a projection of aggressive emotion or imagination, and for any man such an erection is demanding and uncomfortable. He will frequently have to masturbate to free him from his lonely and out of place existence. If the basic nature of woman is love, what has happened to her? Why is she often she is she so confused and unloving? How exactly does she contribute to her lover's premature ejaculation, and her impotence, her inability to reach her erection? Because she does that too.
Over the millennia, the man with his penis has gradually made the woman like him sexually. He has induced in her a male-like sexual emotionality, an alien sexual personality, which she can no longer distinguish from his own. Instead of remaining the feminine, negative, passive, serene and pure love principle, she has assumed, under his sexual tutelage, a partly masculine, active, positive instance, completely opposite to her true nature. Beneath her she remains pure woman, pure love - if she can reach her true self down there - but in her superficial sexual projections she is now part male.
One result of this is that in leading her to make love to her her masculine emotionality is aroused as is his. The immediate effect on her is negligible, but on him it's electric. As soon as his penis makes contact with her body, these highly charged masculine vibrations rush from her to him like a wave of arousal and he ejaculates prematurely. The other male problem, impotence - not being able to get an erection - is caused by a lack of love or awareness on the part of both the woman and the man. Both are to blame. Behind this there is a crucial fact to remember: the penis is erected either by emotion or by love. Without emotion or love he will not get erect. This often happens when couples physically bore each other and have relationships out of a sense of duty. If there is no emotional drive as well as love, awareness, between them at that time, the man will not be able to get an erection. But if he has emotional drive even though he doesn't have love, he won't have a problem getting erection.
An emotional penis doesn't need love to have sex, as every woman knows, but that will probably be a one-sided affair. The penis becomes emotionally erect to gratify itself, to release the caged sexual desire or aggression that arises from the man's imaginative obsession with sex. If the woman can be put in the same mental condition, and she can because of the artificial masculine side of her, they will be able to gratify each other. But this will not be love. Impotence does not exist in the sense of a sign of masculine deterioration or deficiency. Many healthy young people suffer from impotence. Nor is it psychological in the way doctors explain it. Impotence is caused only by lack of emotion or love.
That is why when a man gets old and living has knocked some of the emotional excitement out of him, and because by then the lack of love in his body or in that of the woman in the act of love is very frequent, you are more likely to be unable to have an erection. Impotence, or no erection, is the natural state of the penis outside the vagina. It is sexual, emotional assault that forces an erection out of the vagina. A penis that only responds to love only has a full erection inside the vagina or just before entering it. This is why a love penis gets a pure erection to do the job it was created to do - to make love. And that is done inside the vagina, not outside in some imagined woman, or mentally induced arousal or condition. A loving vagina has no difficulty in admitting a loose, full, loving penis, which will immediately become firm and authoritatively erect for the purpose of loving.
However - and this can be important for the man who is trying to purify himself - a pure and loving penis is not capable of getting an erection if there is no love, or insufficient love, in the woman's vagina at that time. moment; that is, if she is dreaming, emotionally distracted, or sexually demanding. Such a man does not use the imagination as other men do. The loving man finds enough stimulation in the moment, in the present, with the woman he is with.
The purity of love is beyond the need for imagined images and artifice that requires emotional sex.
Extract from Making Love
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