A love that endures
Love does not leave men and women. Men and women leave love.
So how do we start? What do we do? We will remove all our emotions from ourselves by approaching the act of love. We have to be very much ourselves, very present, very aware, and understanding of everything we do when we are together. In what follows I am going to assume that you have an intelligent partner who has read this with you, and that you are both engaged in trying to make love in this new way.
The less you make love, the more you grow apart. Also, you are going to be making love without emotion or imagination.
The purpose of this is to get your usual self out of action, so you learn to let it go to your bodies. At first, making love that is different from what you have been doing so far can seem strange. You might or might not get the idea right away. If you did, it will kick back sooner or later when the excitement comes. But don't be discouraged. Persevere. Keep going. Keep loving. The connection will come back or come suddenly and then weaken as you go through another wave of separating emotion. You can't get rid of all the past right away or even in a few weeks. You actually have to work at it for the rest of your life. But all the time you will be making more love and becoming a more conscious and loving human being.
Some of these emotional periods can last a few days. During them, you can dislike each other. Making love can seem impossible. However try when you can, don't allow too long an interval. However, if the emotion in either of you is too great to allow sincerity or love, stop and try again the next day. But, I repeat, make love, don't make excuses. Put the bodies together and see.
Understand that in the guide to making love and in the act of love itself you should not have thoughts or decisions independent of each other. Everything has to be done together, discussed and watched together while doing it. Not long silences. You must constantly talk and verbalize, expressing what you are feeling as well as your bodily sensations. When you feel pleasure, say it; say, "This is wonderful," if it is. Say what you really feel, not what you think. You're not supposed to be thinking, you're supposed to be. That means mimicking inside your body what he's feeling, not what you're thinking. Communicate in words. This will only keep you aware and present face to face with the other.
Do not waste yourself sexually from one place to another. Stay with a mate once you've found it. Emotional partners who are not committed will weaken you and cause you to lose faith. Conserve energy.
It will not be easy to find committed partners.
If you are currently single, my advice is to only make love where there is enough love to begin with and not just for satisfaction or gratification on either side.If not, wait.
If you meet someone and you start to like each other, be honest with each other from the beginning.
Tell him or her the truth, that you are trying to love and raise your consciousness through love. Take responsibility. Talk about what that entails. Let him or her read this.
If you are serious about love, you will attract to yourself a person who will share this great adventure with you.
If the couple breaks up after a while, nothing has really been lost. You will both have gained in love and awareness and be just as loving and sincere next time. The most important thing, especially for women, is to be vulnerable to love but navigate clean of emotions. You know the difference now. Don't separate yourself from yourself because you've been hurt. Have courage to love. Open up. Love will help you. Don't let fear harden you. It was the emotion and the lack of love that hurt you on both sides. It's the past. Let go. Now that you are beginning to understand what it is to make love, you have the simple answer and the simplest protection of all.
Only make love where there is enough love to be sincere and present with the other from the beginning.
And don't fall in love. Falling in love is closing your eyes, shutting out your beautiful consciousness and traveling to dreamland while you're awake. It is bound to end in disaster, because you will be in the imagination and not see what happens. Be in love. Always be in love when you are in love. Because being in love and keeping love always fresh and new requires tremendous awareness, tremendous presence of the kind that I have been describing to you in this text. Be in love like this and your love will not end, because love has no end. Fall in love and your love will end...
Woman in command of love