The Real Difference Between Love and Sex
The great impediment to the love between man and woman is that they have not realized, they do not know, the difference between love and sex. And this applies, particularly in the case of woman, because she is the prize of existence. If she doesn't know the difference between love and sex, she gets distracted from what she is. And when she's not being what she is, she gets moody, emotional, unhappy, unfulfilled.
First of all, to know what love is, you have to know what the false is, because love is true and sex is false. So the best way to demonstrate love is to demonstrate sex to you.
Sex is violent, that means it's trying to reach an end, either an orgasm or the power over another, it's always got an end.
Sex is impatient. So if the man that a woman's with is impatient he has sex in him, for love is not impatient. The love between man and woman, physically is not impatient.
Sex can be interrupted in the action of making love, if the phone rings or they're interrupted by the children, then the sex in either is likely to get frustrated. Whereas love would never get frustrated by the sexual act being interrupted, because the love is always there, and there's nothing to be interrupted except the action, and that does not matter, because we can always come back again. But sex is impatient.
Sex is also demanding - give me an orgasm, get me more excited. It makes the mind move, to visualize sexual situations of the past to give the emotions more power, to get me more excited, so that I can disappear into this excitement. That's sex, not love. Love does not imagine other bodies while I'm making love to this body, this woman.
Sex pursues ardently and then forgets about love. Having pursued so ardently it can forget about love and go away until the biological urge comes again, or the imagination has provoked the desire to come back to the woman instead of loving her, just loving her.
So whatever sex is, Love is the opposite.
Love does not get discontented. Love does not get frustrated, love does not get impatient. Love never has to say, if it's a man, 'Oh, I've got to come. I've got to have release'. Not true, that's sex. Sex has to have release, not love.
Barry and Eckhart