Excitement and passion
Question: can you explain the difference between excitement and passion? Barry Long responds:
Excitement is what ruins the making of love because it drives us into imagination, into our minds and into comparisons. We want to repeat excitement. It is such a seductive energy that we want to look for excitement and that drives us out of our bodies.
Passion is not exciting. Passion is fulfilling. Excitement is satisfactory: it satisfies us to go up to an orgasm for instance. We get excited and the peak of the excitement is the orgasm and for a little while we are satisfied. But then, the demand of excitement comes again and we have to have another orgasm. It starts off and then starts going up like a ramp and then it finishes and drops suddenly.
Passion is not like that. Passion is enduring. If you make love with your body and with innocence in your body, there is a pleasure that starts to rise and that pleasure is constant. It doesn't get excited and lead up to something. It can lead to orgasm - and there is nothing wrong with that - but it is not working towards an orgasm. Orgasm might happen but it is secondary to the beauty of passionate love between two bodies.
It is the negative emotions in us which separate us from the innocence and the beauty of the animals and separate us from our own beauty which is our own physical body. It is the physical body that makes love and not the mind.
So we've got to still the mind in the making of love and the way you do that is to be one with the sensory pleasure - because the making of love is a great pleasure in a sensory sense. The senses are alive in the making of love and if we keep the mind still and just focus on the sensory pleasure, we don't get excited. We are just in a state of passion and that passion can go on making love without going towards some end. It is just the pleasure of making love.
As you start to get the pleasure of making love between two bodies, love then gradually becomes beauty. The more innocently you make love, just making it with the body and not with the fantasies or the imagination or the emotions, pleasure turns into beauty. And more and more beauty comes into your life because you are bringing more and more pleasure into your body, more and more beauty into your body. It energises it in a different way. It makes it more vital, more healing, more healthy. But that's only if you keep the mind out of it and become innocent like the animals.
I was saying that the purpose of love between man and woman is for them to enjoy being together. Now purpose has no end so the next question I would ask myself would be “What's the purpose behind that purpose? –“ because you are not there just to enjoy yourself, you don't make love to get something for yourself. There is a greater and deeper purpose to making love.
If you make love rightly in your body and you go through pleasure into beauty, where does this lead? What’s the purpose of that? Its whole purpose is to realise the union between the two principles called man and woman.
It is to realise that, inside the body, inside the intellect, to actually make it a living reality.
Here we have man and here we have woman. They will always remain separate as two separate bodies; they can never merge and become one body. That is absolutely impossible. If they are going to become one, how is this done? It is done within. It is done in consciousness.
The purpose of making love and enjoying one another and doing all that I have said is to have a union of consciousness which is called God realisation. For when the principle of man and the principle of woman are realised in the body, are realised in the intellect, are realised psychologically, the two have union and that is what is called God Consciousness.
God Consciousness is the complete elimination of your self: complete elimination of all your negativity, of all your wanting, of all your trying to do something. And that can be brought about by the love of man and woman, the right love between man and woman. It is the rarest state on earth: to reach an end of my self, an end of all my negativity and to realise the one divine consciousness which of course is behind everything on earth and behind your body and my body as man and woman. And the way to do it is by man loving woman and woman loving man in the way I have described.
Divine consciousness and love