Divine consciousness and love
Question: you were talking earlier about personalities that come up from the past and can you say something about how you get rid of them or let them go. Barry Long responds:
Well the wonderful thing about having a partnership of man and woman which are the two opposites – the man does not have what woman has, and woman does not have what man has.
When they can come together and he can have what she has and what she is, and she can have the same with him then the difference of genders disappears. And they through this divine consciousness become as one in consciousness. And that is the realisation of God in existence which can only be done through the love between man and woman.
Now if you’re in a partnership and suddenly in a discussion or an argument or something, up comes a personality from the past in the man or the woman, then one or the other, should be able to say to the other – “Do you see that? Do you see that this is not you? Do you see that this is something coming up from the past in you? Do you see that you have taken a position? Do you see that you’re sure of yourself? Do you see that you’re no longer soft and sweet as I know you to be, but you’ve got force in you?”
Now that’s the beauty of being in relationship. Because if say the woman said that to you, and you loved her and you were in this relationship for God and truth, then there’s a chance that you might be able to see that this has come from some hurt in the past, and what word in the present triggered it.
So that you see and say – “Ah! I’ve got an attachment to that person or event we were just talking about. Something to defend in my past.”
Then by the seeing of it you help to dissolve it. That is how it works. And that is the beauty of a partnership. You have to keep loving each other through it, as you each become lighter and more transparent and more innocent – the more you are able to do this the more you will be able to love.
Whereas if you’re on your own, going everywhere on your own, being independent, wanting to have your own independence, deciding always for yourself, you’re just on you own, you can’t do this because you cover it up. That’s the beauty of right relationships between man and woman.
In love you cannot have imagination because it is not necessary in love between man and woman. Because it is such a sensational beautiful thing for a man to be inside a woman, and for a woman to have a man inside of her, that you don’t need to imagine anything because it is already so beautiful, that is if you’re loving.
But if you’re used to excitement then you can’t get that state, so you’re likely to take some alternative. So watch in case you hit any buttons either in you or your woman. You have to be present and watch for the first sign of emotion, for the first sign of unhappiness – if you don’t it festers and grows – and you both grow apart.
In your moment of certainty, you’re not likely to be able to see it because you’l defend it. So your woman has just got to ask you the questions and say – “now do you see this? do you see that?”
And you’re likely to take some sort of attitude because that hurt is an entity of force and it can’t see and it can’t hear. It is just ignorance.
So you might have to wait until you come back to your senses, say in a couple of hours, or you’ve softened up, for her to be able to say or for you to be able to say – “I’m so sorry.”
Because if you don’t – then you’ll get the sorrows and you don’t want to have sorrows. You’ll be able to see, and she’ll be able see – you’ll be able to say to each other – “well that is what we don’t want, my goodness, yes we don’t want that because I left you, I thought I was right, it was so powerful in me, but I wasn’t right.”
And in that way self-knowledge is gained.
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