The Hole in the Web

In this talk Barry Long talks about transcending the emotional and mental patterns of the human condition through conscious stillness. He uses the metaphor of the mind as a spider's web, emphasising how the “emotional self” – like a spider – constantly works to repair disruptions to its illusion of control and knowledge. Profound experiences like death can tear holes in this web, allowing glimpses into a state of stillness or “nothing” that is closer to reality. Barry urges listeners not to let grief or emotion seal these openings too quickly but to remain present, practicing being without the mind so that when suffering or death arises, it can be met with conscious understanding rather than fear.

Through dialogue Barry also explores practical aspects of life, including relationships, work, child-rearing, and societal values. Barry criticises modern attachments to materialism, extending lifespans at the cost of life quality, and reliance on charity, suggesting that intelligence and love without attachment are keys to a fulfilling life. He stresses that true intelligence is not mental cleverness but openness to truth and love, and that each individual has the capacity to live rightly by surrendering to a higher inner intelligence rather than making endless choices driven by desire or fear. Throughout, he affirms the divine nature within every human being and invites listeners to face suffering, emotion, and the ego with stillness and honesty.